The daily prompt from about a week ago on Daily Post was to discuss the tag line that we would assign for our lives… kind of like you would assign for your blog.
Well, I guess I didn’t do a good job of separating my life from my blog because the tagline from my blog header is actually the tagline for my life.
The time passes anyway… do something useful with it.
Time doesn’t hold on for us to get our shit together, make decisions or plans. Hours and minutes go by at the same rate regardless of whether we’re ready for them to pass or not. It’s a cruel game when you think about it. A week could go by… not much in the grand scheme of things… a week to make a decision… a week to make a plan… but you’ve got to be careful because one week turns into two and two turns into twenty and before you know it, half a year has gone by and you could be no closer to your goal, your new path or your future.
This passage of time is no more obvious than when you want to change your body. One day in December you decide to ‘start tomorrow’ to get your beach body for the following summer. The holidays happen, you indulge… always tomorrow you’ll start. January 1st rolls around and you say that your first day back at work will be the day. Tomorrow never really comes, even tho it comes exactly every day. And before you know it, you’re in the same body as you were in December (or worse), only it’s beach time. Beach time came and your beach body didn’t… And the worst worst worst part about the passage of time in which time changes but you don’t is regret. Where could I have been today if I’d started six months ago like I planned? Why did I let every day slide by only to end up halfway through another year and no where near where I want to be.
The time passes anyway. And it can hand you an aching regret if you’re not careful. I wasted a LOT of years letting time pass around me… by me… with no input from me as to where I wanted to go. I let five Christmases pass where I didn’t see my family because the choice to not see them was easier and less painful than the alternative of trying to stand up for myself. (Imagine that! My situation was so acute that the pain of not seeing my family at Christmas was LESS than the pain of standing up for myself. THAT is hard to live with). The time passed. Every moment of that time is a moment that I want and can’t have back.
Do something useful with it. Useful is the word I used. I could have chosen myriad words to put in the place of useful. I could have said productive, loving, effective… Or I could have said the following simple statement. Do Something. We all know that not making a decision is making a decision (we all know that… right?!?). Well not doing something is doing something. Not making a plan, not making a change and not making an effort are all doing exactly the opposite of what you think you want to do. I say ‘think’ because the reality is that if we wanted change bad enough… if we were ready for change enough, we’d make the change. Making wholesale change in your life is not the same in reality as it is depicted in the movies. I have a burning memory of watching some Ashley Judd movie where she’s in jail and she decides to put her ‘time’ to good use and turns herself into an athlete. Of course the 35 seconds of a film compilation is ‘exactly’ the same as real life right? No where does it mention that it takes her two years and some, if not all of the time, it hurts. Real, wholesale change of your life is a dripping faucet… not a firehose. It’s a tiny bit every day that is moving in the direction you want to go in. It’s a dollar in a jar every day. It’s no snacks in the evening every day. It’s a kind word said to yourself in the mirror every day. And as time passes and you spend a moment every day when that six months finally passes, you’ll see just how far you’ve come. But because change is so very slow and methodical and each day builds on the next, you really must waste no more days as time passes…
I want to say that I found the last thing on Instagram or some other ‘inspirational’ poster site, but really, I just made it up, so if it sounds stupid, that’s why. This is what I ask myself every day.
If I won’t do it today, why would I do it tomorrow?
Ask yourself that. And then get out there and do something. Because time is passing.